Stress or Loneliness at Christmas
Stress or Loneliness at ChristmasDearReader, According to statistics, we eat 60% more than usual at Christmas. There are obvious triggers in our culture for this. But stress or loneliness can be the emotional triggers. The lead up to Christmas can be stressful. Trying to get everything done, hosting Christmas, visiting people you have difficult relationships with... This can all trigger off fatigue, a stress response or bad memories. So, it’s normal to feel frazzled at this time of year. Never mind the waning light and cold! Being over-productive and feeling lonely are also part of the human experience. But they can be super triggered at Christmas, when an idealised ‘togetherness’ is the theme. The experience of stress or loneliness are a whole mixture of feelings and thoughts. One of these is self-criticism. It’s common to feel "I can't do anything right", “Nobody likes me” or “Who else would have me?” Family dynamics or not having a partner at Christmas can bring all of this out. Here are three helpful Christmas podcasts (My favourite is the third one!): Christmas Loneliness, Conflict, & Comfort Eating Christmas Over-productivity & GUILT - How to wind down Sleep & A Calming Christmas Bedtime Story Christmas is a good time to start being more loving towards yourself. Even if you don't come to it until after Boxing Day. It's never too late. As the saying goes ‘Goodwill to all men’. That most definitely includes you. Happy Christmas, and thank you for being here this year! Warmly, Shelley P.S. If you want to put something powerful in place for the new year, click below to set up a meeting with me.
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